Hmm, SQ, thinking you might have misread. I have a very good therapist, and he was on my side. What he said to my husband was that if his employer told him something needed to be done, he wouldn't just shrug it off. He'd do it, because it's important. Well, what I want is important too. It really bothers me to see cluttered surfaces, or to have to dig through a drawer to find something. I like to have a place for everything, and everything in its place, or my mind doesn't function well and I get overwhelmed. Unfortunately, with physical disabilities I am incapable of cleaning the house up to my own standards. It would mean a lot to me if I had willing help, but I don't. When I ask for help, I get put off.

Hubby also said I should remind him if he forgets, and T asked, "Then at what point does it become your responsibility to remember?" Exactly. Why *should* I have to ask twice?