Did you read my profile? I have one daughter and she has ASPD. I knew something was wrong with her from the time she was born, but had no idea how to categorize it. In the 80's neither did her physciatrist or therapist. They were totally unable to reach her or explain to me why they could not. They acutually told me they pitied me and said they would continue to counsel me for any possible help they could provide me to help me. If you are unfamiliar with ASPD its what we used to call sociopathy. Put simply, my daughter is incapable of loving me except as I am useful to her. She has been in pain her whole life and I have been unable to help her. Her condition has an extremely low success rate even with every available medication and therapy currently existing. The point of all this was to let you know I know exactly how it feels to see your children hurting and feel helpless to do anything about it. I sincerely wish I could bring you some kind of comfort but I don't know what to say. The only thing I know is that you are not alone. Please let me help support you at least emotionally. Best wishes, stay strong.