M as never been very maternal, good with babies etc. When she babysat a family friends baby I had to help alot-she freaked out when a bottle didn't stop his crying. When she went into the hospital to have her she was ok, she did well. She also ended up having a c section, and at first seemed like she loved the baby. She still wasn't good with taking care of her, but she was willing to try. She did good (well, alright) with her for 3 days, until the boyfriend showed up. Then she started passing her daughter off to family so she and J could go party. The first 30 days of her daughter, R's, life she/they had her 5 or 6 days. The rest of the time they were off drinking. They decided to move in with his dad, almost an hour away, when R was almost 2 months old. The last day they were at my mom's she told them they were leaving, and she supposed they were going to take R. She had told someone in the family they were going to give R to his sister (BIG problems here, will go into it later). We freaked out. Me, my mom, my sister and my aunt were all at the house the morning this happened. Her and my mom got into a fight that if they didn't want the baby to leave her at the house. My sister kept saying she didnt want her and if someone did they better speak up or she was taking her to give to J's sister. My aunt, sister and I had a quick discussion...sister had a 4.5 month old baby-but would take her, if she had to. I said I would after I checked with husband, my aunt is 50 but she went in and said she would take her and raise her, if I couldn't. My sister said "Fine." She went in to get her to give her to us, and J--having heard what was said--told her no. This was his baby and they were going to raise her as a family (yes, because he's done SO well with his sons he never sees). So, just on that...she came out and said No, she was taking her and they were going to be a fmaily. They were hung over, and taking awhile to get things together. My aunt and I went out to have a cig and talk things over.

to be continued