Cat - at least he agreed! I asked my bf to go to therapy and he finally agreed, then it came time to go and we realized we are both flat broke. He called the school (I'm a student, he's not) and asked if they had discounted programs for significant others of students. They said no but gave him several phone numbers of therapists in the area that work specifically with people who don't have insurance. He ended up finding a woman that gave him a massive discount and actually let him go for weeks without paying waiting until my financial aid went through. So you can find some good resources if you call around. There are always good people out there looking to help people.

I understand the hubris. I kind of deal with the same thing but in a different way. My colleagues view me as this strong, independent woman....which I am. But after a while the jokes get old. They tell me they joke with me a lot because they know I have thick skin and don't let it affect me. The thing is....it does affect me. So, to keep up this image I take it all day then come home and sometimes I just have to let it out. My bf has held me before while I'm bawling over some of the crap I put up with. But these people view me as some superwoman bc they don't see that sensitive side of me.

Just because he has things he deals with outside of class, that doesn't mean he isn't excellent at what he does. He can't see into everyone else's world and personal lives. These people he respects so much and worries about losing their respect, could go home to terrible fighting, dysfunction etc... Heck, I bet some of them have gone through some kind of sexual trauma also!!

I'm glad you talked to him about it and I'm glad he is agreeing to working on these issues. This can only get better! Good luck!