Please hang in there until the psych evaluation. I really believe that if he has the correct diagnosis and is put on meds to assist him, he'll be back to his old self.

I dated someone who was BP (Before I was dx'd) and i know how irritating and scary it can be. At times it is so lonely, and evry step you take feels like you're walking on egg shells.

You need to look after yourself, then the kids. Give it time to the evaluation, if he gets put onto meds hang in there for max 6 months, and thereafter remember just how precious your life is, and that you really deserve to live it to the fullest