Hi, I'm new to this forum and have some questions regarding my behaviors and if they have anything to do with BPD. I ask, because I am currently in a relationship with a man who was diagnosed Bipolar II 5 months ago and it is getting hard to deal with the relationship and life itself.

First off, I am NOT diagnosed, but have tried to go to many psych docs, but they only give me benzos for my anxiety issues.

I am a quiet person by nature, you can call me shy, but I do tend to latch onto people who I feel 100% comfortable with and thats only like three people tops. I met my current boyfriend 7 months ago and we fell in love at first site and moved in with him literally the next day we had just met. At that time he wasn't diagnosed Bipolar II yet, so thought things were perfect. Once he was diagnosed, he changed and so many police incidents regarding his Bipolar disorder, not any to do with violence with me of course. Now I'm the type of person who is very dependent to men and feel I NEED them to survive. My family and relatives all tell me I should take care of myself and have us separate to focus on our own problems, but I cannot do that. That freaks me out. I also freak out if I am not with him most of the time or knowing where he is all the time, for fears that something horrific may have happened to him. I feel so clingy but I can't help it.

Another problem, my boyfriend has come to realize with me is that I try to sabotage our relationship by making catty remarks or "acting out", most of this I don't even feel I'm doing that on purpose which hurts. He tells me I'm passive-aggressive all the time, which I don't consciously don't feel like I'm doing anyways.

I want this to work, but since he has Bipolar II and barely takes meds, I feel so tense and scared because I feel I will go crazy if this relationship fails big time.

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any suggestions on how to deal and be a better person to myself and my boyfriend?

Thanks