I admire you for sticking it out with your husband. My bipolar disorder ruined my marriage, and I can now see why my husband coudln't take it anymore. Give the meds and therapy a chance to work and see how it goes. I'm sure your husband loves you very much--he just can't see past the misery he's in right now. Remember to take care of yourself and do nice things for yourself--are you seeing a therapist individually? I think it would he helpful.