I've been with my girlfriend for a year now and well, I feel abandoned. There just seems to be no affection coming my way. I try so hard, I tell her I love her, try to get close, snuggle up to her by the tv at night but..nothing. We moved into a new place together nearly 3 months ago and we have only made love once in that time. She puts it down to being tired, or it being too hot, or that time of the month, etc. I find myself getting my self off at night when I need it, when she's out in the other room playing on the computer, or even when she's asleep next to me.

It doesn't help my self esteem at all, I don't know if she wants sex either, is she struggling???? I know I should ask her but all I get is "everything's fine". I need affection, I need her. She is so distant.

This is my first relationship in 10 years, and only the second one in my entire life. It makes me question myself. Am I doing something wrong? Am I just too needy?