well, she definitely has no history of abuse, her family is a bit disfunctional but she hasn't been hurt at all. She is a lot younger than me, and though very mature for her age, that difference does come through every now and then. SHe is very wrapped up in her computer, chatting to everyone else rather than me. It really isn't just about sex here, either, but companionship. I'm feeling more like a flatmate more than a girlfriend at the moment.