I think it depends on the person and the state they are in.

When I am in a deep depression, I just want to be left alone. My life has no purpose, so I cannot possibly love anyone or anything. When I am in mild depression, I crave my boyfriend to be there for me. I love him so much, I can start to smother him.
When I become hypomanic, I become very self-confident and tend to pull away from my boyfriend. It's not that I no longer love him, I just am able to do things without being too dependant on him.

But ultimately my goal is to be stable and be able to have a healthy and consistent relationship.

Is your husband actively involved in getting himself better? Taking meds and interacting with his pdoc? Going for therapy? It needs to come from the person themselves if there is ever going to be any healing