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Originally Posted by Leed
Hi Beachgirl ~ Welcome! I'm afraid I have to agree with YOU. We have enough in the media and on TV to contend with that makes us feel "less than" without our men looking at these gorgeous babes online too. It makes us feel undesirable, ugly, fat, "less than" and every other adjective you can think of.
My "ex" used to have tons of Playboy magazines, and it made me feel terrible. Of course I didn't look like those babes ~ I tried losing weight and I did ~ but I still didn't "look" like them. Maybe if I had a face transplant, I might add up, but there was no way I could compare.  Naturally that's not what broke up the marriage, but it sure didn't help. We broke up before the internet. 
My dear second husband was NOT into porn, or even Playboy, bless his heart. He made me feel like I was good enough for him. 
Since your husband is hiding this stuff on the internet, he KNOWS how you feel about it and doesn't seem to care! That would upset me too. And why shouldn't you wonder why he's hiding something? Wouldn't he look too if everytime HE came into the room, you closed out a page? He'd go looking too! He'd be just as suspicious as you were. I don't blame you for being upset and hurt. We wives have had to take a back seat to these "babes" for years ~ if our husbands want one of them, go GET one. I'd like to see them catch one!!! LOL God bless you and take care. My prayers are with you. Hugs, Lee
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Don't have any idea if I am doing this post right or not...but I just want to thank-you for this conversation.
I considered myself to be self-confident, self-motivated, and self-empowering. However that all changed with my husband's use of porn...mercy, such a long story...and if I ever learn how to post and start
my own thread, I will, try to do a "reader's digest" condensed version.
For now...I can only testify, that for myself, my husbands use of porn has come very close to destroying the relationship and myself...I am new here...but this has been a story almost 4 years in the making. I hope to recover and accept the outcome. Thanks and best wishes to us all.