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Originally Posted by googley
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Just take it one day at a time. Trying to figure out everything about what will happen will just be overwhelming. So it sounds like your dad has a lawyer, and you are wondering if your mom does. That would be something simple to get an answer to (ask her). That can relieve that anxiety. If she doesn't she may have a good reason not to. And you can ask her why. You can also ask her (and your father) questions about how they see things like holidays happening in the future. They might not have thought about it yet, but it is their responsibility as the ones who are getting divorced to think about those things.
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Thanks, googley.
Overwhelming sounds about right.
Fortunately I'll be seeing mum at the weekend, so you're right, I can ask then. It did worry me when we last spoke about it that she was so vague about the financial stuff...
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While you say that it is an awkward thing to bring up (which I agree) you could do it by when a friend asks you how you are saying, "well right now I'm doing pretty badly (or whatever phrase fits you). They may then ask what is wrong. If they do you can then go on with "I just found out my parents are getting a divorce." That will give you an opening to talk about it. And even if your friends themselves have not had parents who have divorced, they probably know people who's parents have divorced.
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My friends don't tend to ask how I am very often. :| But you're right, if it does come up that's a good idea - I did manage to tell one girl on my course the news that way, and she was good about it.
Yeah, I've been considering going back into counselling over it, but I didn't find it all that helpful the last time I went...will have to see. At least with this sort of thing it's ok to talk about it in real life with friends, unlike hair pulling, which is something I'd never talk about with anyone. (Other than my boyfriend, who's been great about it even if he tells me off whenever my hand goes anywhere near my hair now.
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