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Leed · Jan 27, 2011, 06:57 PM

Hi again ~ Do I dare say that part of the problem is that you're Catholic?? I'm a former Catholic and that church did a REAL number on me -- of course i come from a generation where the Nun's taught us, and they WERE evil so-and-so's. Every single thing we did or thought, we were going straight to hell. It didn't even matter if it was something bad or not - we were just going to hell!! So i take it that your parents are church-going Catholics, huh? Oh great. I can see how that could be difficult for you.

I think every teenager has trouble talking to their parents or expressing their emotions. It's too bad too, cause this is the time of life when things NEED to be talked about. My granddaughter would usually come to ME cause her Mom would pooh-pooh her fears/emotions ~ that made me mad -- and her mom is MY daughter. She wasn't brought up that way. So my granddaughter and i had MANY long talks about stuff. Trouble is they have moved to Mississippi - and i'm in Michigan.

Kids need to talk to someone they can trust about stuff -- and hopefully it's their parents!! They shouldn't be pushed aside or laughed at or have their concerns minimized. They are very REAL. And your parents are WRONG to compare you to your sister!! the two of you are as different as night and day. I wouldn't want 2 of the same thing. How boring!!!

Naturally you're trying to get a reaction out of them -- you're looking for some validation -- some attention!!!! That's what ANY young person would do. If I thought it would have worked with MY parents, I would have done the same thing -- but they were so drunk, they wouldn't have noticed anyway.

And you are NOT responsible for everything. If they had paid attention to you, you wouldn't have had to do all this in the first place!! What is the matter with them, are they blind??? And all they're thinking about is THEM as far as counseling goes huh?? They're thinking about how it would "look" to everyone. How their social status would be affected!! Makes me want to barf. ACK!
THEY are the ones who need counseling --- I think you're normal!!

Sweetie, you CAN talk to the counselor at school. That would be an outlet for you - they are trained for this kind of thing. And it WOULD help you. If you're sure that your folks won't let you get outside help, talk to the one at school.

In the meantime -- there is no point in butting heads with your parents. You'll only make yourself AND them miserable. Why not call a truce -- try to get along as much as possible and see what happens. I'm NOT saying to bow to their every whim -- but just try to get along. Maybe things will settle down a little to where you can "tolerate" it. I sure hope so sweetie. I'm concerned about you. Please keep in touch - you can message me if you want. God bless honey, and take care. Hugs, Lee