Thank you Elana. I'm totally confused right now as to what I should do.

For myself, I should get out of my emotionally draining marriage. The husband hasn't had a job in over 2 1/2 years. Won't look for a job unless I nag him to look.... and I just can't keep doing this.

I just feel like I'm disappointing his family. They love me, and they know I'm frustrated, but I don't think they know I'm on the verge of divorce. I'm just not loving him like he needs because I'm so frustrated.

I've begged and pleaded for counseling, but he doesn't want to go. Flat out refuses. Also, it's probably a good thing, since we couldn't afford it anyways.

Maybe it's my emotions running wild, thinking "oh wow... someone else who's unhappy in their marriage, too! We have something in common!!" I..... I really don't know.

I hate this. I hate being torn over my husband, whom I'm not even sure I love anymore, and a guy I've spoken to for a week.