((goldenme)) what you've described is a very difficult situation, and you deserve credit for seeing both sides of it so clearly... you are obviously thinking hard about what is best for your daughter, and that's ALL a mother can do!!! It is too bad that her father does not recognize her bp and the need for medication and/or therapy... is there any other adult in her life she can spend time with who can provide some stabilizing influence but also be understanding of her bp disorder? a mentor, relative, friend's parent? Just keep on communicating your love to her whenever you can... keep on reassuring her of that. You are in an incredibly tough situation and I can tell you love her very much!!