thanks so much for the help and not yelling at me about cat-abuse! I love River, she's a gorgeous thing, I think being at home by myself alot means the poor cat cops all my unhappiness, and cats can definitely pick up your mood. I'm trying out the spray bottle thing - she hates it! But trying to remember she's a cat, not a person, and not the problem. I try to make sure I watch where she is when I'm walkinaround too.