hi there

thanks for the replies

we are in the uk. she is doing ok, and like i mentioned in my first post this school year she is alot better with hardly no real tantrums as such since august last year but it still doesn't explain her behavior before then. At the moment she tells me she has only 1 friend at school who she is possessive of and if her friend goes to play with someone else she walks around the playground crying. she also is a very slow reader and we have great difficulty trying to get her to redo pages of text to help her fluency and to correct her mistakes because she doesn't like to make an effort with school work at home. she apparently she gets told off a little for talking alot in class and gets moved to a table by herself. she also has always and still is obsessed with our cat lol and will follow him everywhere, pick him up pull him about, and even hurt him sometimes. these behaviors are the norm with her on a daily basis.

we are at present no seeking a second opinion but are going to see how the year goes as come September it will be interesting to see how she reacts to a different teacher and their teaching style. we were told last school year that her SAT results were 2c/2b and she still is 2b so not sure whether she is progressing or treading water but she is meant to reach level 2a by July so we will see what happens there