Hi Complic8d - I'm sorry, I missed this post the other day. I haven't read the book. My ex-husband used to hurt me terribly by calling me a control freak. It hurt, because I felt that I compromised a LOT for him. So I don't know, calling yourself those things really doesn't help you.

That's great, though, that you're willing to work on that part of you. I wish you the best of luck.