MissMay, I also thought I had friends at work. Once I went on disability, they disappeared. I have called one of them and had lunch...several years ago probably 6 months after I left work. He didn't seem interested in meeting with me again.

I have found 3 friends in the past 3 years but they are all needy or have only minimal contact. One of them that I haven't seen in a few months just called, not to talk with me but to ask me to fix his computer. (I will on Monday) The other two don't have cars and call me only when they want to go somewhere. I do like visiting with them but I have to be willing the be the one who is OK.