I went through a similar experience with my ex-husband. He had forgotten to close out some of the sites, and when I turned the computer on, they were there staring me in the face. I confronted him, and we got into a rather nasty argument. We came to a "somewhat" agreement. It wasn't necessarily the actual porn that got to me, just that he couldn't be open about viewing them. The lies made me feel as though I wasn't doing something right in the relationship. I thought we had worked things out... Was I wrong!

Several years later I found he had still been on the porn sites the whole time. Just did a full clean of the history, temp files etc. whenever he was done. I let it slide, since I was only a few months along in my pregancy and didn't want the stress. Besides, I wasn't able to fulfill any of his sexual needs, so letting him watch the stuff figured like a reasonable thing.

He never did tell the truth. And what scared me was that he got the idea that I would enjoy porn too. So all of a sudden one night the question if I'd want to watch something different was sprung on me. Then he brings out dvd's he'd ordered. Our relationship went downhill after that. Several times I had to explain my feelings, even wrote them out because all I heard was "I don't understand." I had been seriously contemplating filing for divorce. And when I learned he had an ad in the personals and had put a photo of us on a swingers site I knew it was time to leave. I understand some enjoy that lifestyle or entertainment.

Anyways, I hope you two can sit down and really have a heart to heart. Just my experience, but if he doesn't want to meet in the middle, it's going to be a terrible time for you. Be thinking of you

PS.. I think everyone has an imagination. And working together to learn what each other enjoys can make the relationship stay healthy