shezbut, I know the frustration with which you're dealing. I'm sorry about your aunt, and what she's facing. I'm also sorry about the turmoil it is causing you at present, which is reasonable considering your circumstances.

I have managed to scramble across the country in time to have a few last moments with a very close elderly relative before we lost her, but that was the exception. On the other occasions when this has happened, the trip(s) couldn't take place for a variety of reasons, and I felt like a rocket readying for launch, but still clamped to earthly encumbrances and immense gravitational force. I felt that way in the first instance I described as well, but was lucky enough to blast off, as it were, and get where I needed to be.

My heart and thoughts are with you and your family in this difficult time. I know how unresolved and uncontrollable everything must feel right now. I am sorry I can't offer any practical solutions, but I do understand.