Wishing for someone else to be your mother is because your mother has hurt you very badly. It isn't the fault of the daughter.
Sibblings can sometime be very cruel. Most of the time it is because you are better then them and they know it and are jealous of you.
Sometime we cannot be a good wife because the husband don't give us a chance to show him our true value. Also because sometime, deep down, he is afraid of you, afraid of your power, afraid because really you don't need him to survive and he knows it.
Children wants to discover the world at their rhythms. So they will not only take your guidance but will also look elsewhere just in case that there would be something they would miss, something you wouldn't know not because they don't love you but because of their need to discover further and further.
It is very very hard to see the positive side of life when you suffer from depression and you are also not in a very good situation or environment. But you have to keep reminding yourself Mandy that this is not your fault and to try to see just the small beauty that life can give you becuase there is beauty in this world but it is not always the people that surrond us who will make us see that. Sometime you have to look beyond the ugliness.
I love you my friend