Shezbut, so sorry about your aunt. Mine is in San Francisco and will be 90 the beginning of April. She has already started talking about how she has lived long enough, etc. and I'm desperate to get out there this year but don't think I can.

Can you work a bit in the shower; take a couple really long one's each day or go for a drive someplace and sit in a park parking lot and get some privacy to try and think?