Well, my only advice is to be very careful. If you guys are both married, this could end badly. While my heart goes out to both of you during these trying times, I can't help but wonder what the "new" guy's true motives could be.

I'm sorry - I'm divorced and cynical. I don't always believe what a guy tells me about his ex-wife or whatever - because I can't help but think that there are two sides to the story. I've been lied to, but I can't prove it.

Just be careful. I feel like you're going to get your heart broken by this man who tries to please his wife. I think he will continue to try and please the wife.

It's tough to be married sometimes, and everyone has their ebbs and flows with marriage. The good times are good, and the bad times really suck. And when they suck, sometimes it's hard to think about any good times at all.

Please - be careful. For your sake. I know you're getting a hard-luck story, but you and he both are married. Be friends, be there for him, but be careful.