I don't ever perceive you as anything but wise Ygrec.I possess an undercurrent of deep pain.There are two modes from which I function.I am crying as I write.Because I feel foolish for the severity of my post...and realize that my perspective is very off.I am either an innocent healer,or a broken shadow.I search for a middle ground and cannot find one.Sort of black & white...and though I hate to apply a label to behaviors...for fear it is a cop out...I am aware that I am a borderline,,,and that this needs work within.I am sorry (for me,and toward others ) for the stance I take.It feel too rigid and pervasive to change.I do try.It's my bad.Something I am aware of.Nothing aside from intense therapy will be able to heal it.I see the truth in your reply.I see the defeatist tone in my own.It is not "what Ygrec posted"...nor is it "that Ygrec posted it".You have a wisdom I admire.You are correct....an element of negativity and disregard exists...has existed since the beginning.I have never reconciled my mind to the fact....and at age 43 am shocked and surprised each time this sort show themselves.I realize as well,my sensitivities are 'handed over' due to a lack of mindfulness,with regard to the fact that it is life and perhaps even a necessary degree of life that there be this contrast of types in the world to highlight life lessons we must learn.Insulated as we are due to the fact that these are community boards ,the fact remains that logically the posts within the boards are brought by the fingers and mind of our fellow man.You say ....face to face these people would not have the courage to say or do things which are said/done in the web.(logically I know you are right)"MOST" wouldn't.I have considered that fact.You say 'unless you let them succeed' I do 'let them' I have no idea how to rearrange my impulsivity to bear that in mind at all times...and I become as a feather in the wind many times....blown by any small breeze.The intensity with which I replied was as a result of my projecting personal/current issues/emotions to a statement which apparently triggered some other thoughts.And lastly ....in reply to the last sentence......if I can get my head to rule my heart...that may change for me...and it in retrospect is very as per wolf...:"overthetop"Thank you for your reply.I hope I always hear from you.Be well.~W~(p.s (to original poster) I am sorry I hijacked the thread...not my intent.