I have noticed a signature line on this site, "He who angers you, controls you." I see the truth in it, but I have other possibilities too.

I say, "He who excessively helps you, controls you." This is because the more they "help," especially if money is involved, the more power they start asserting over you. I had a lot of trouble with this in my last marriage. My in-laws were very eager to help any time we had a problem, but then they'd hold it over our heads that they helped us, and use it as an excuse to try to control our decision making.

How would you fill in the blank?