I understand both points of view. If you let yourself get angered by others, you give that control that you have lost. And yes, when there is money involved you will be in debt to that person until it is paid off. And a lot of do-gooders who get involved in your life whether you like it or not also gives them control. If you don't want their help and you say so, then they are like "you are so ungrateful" and blah blah blah. I would rather keep to myself and let others actions roll off my back. I don't get angered by others because that brings me down to their level....and I am above that.