I heard this from Wynona? Judd being interviewed on Oprah and it really spoke to me because I had been discovering the same thing in my own life, but she put it like this..."lean in to the pain"...that is so very true to me, seems I spent all this time running from the fear of the pain instead of just allowing myself to feel some it. I don't have all the answers, want to be healed completely from a brokenheart lingering for 3.5years now so I relate. I would like advice/help also. My heart is so soft and full of love for people.