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I also am a people pleaser, or at least I try to be. However, lately, setting boundaries is my thing. I need to do this for me and perhaps this is something you need to work on as well. When I find myself faced with a triggering situation, well, I cant really answer that because I think I avoid everything I deem to be triggering. Although, things pop up from time to time that do trigger me and I usually remove myself from the situation. Perhaps I am not dealing with it in the healthiest way but right now, that is all I can do.

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Hi Jen,

You understand exactly how things are in my present 'recovery'. For a long time 'removing myself from the situation' has been my strategy of choice, well necessity actually.

As I described, as we become entangled in people's expectations again, then it's harder to drop out of sight without causing a rumpus.

Sky, you are of course right in counselling a cautious approach to these responsibilities.

I would like to say to you folks that being able to come here and report on the progress, and the slips, has been the single most helpful thing for me in recent years.

We are people who understand each other. That is a valuable thing in this world.

Good thoughts,

M.