My wife had a mental affair with a guy from her class. I found a poem she wrote about him a few months ago. in the poem were lines like "longing for new" "the feel of his kiss on my neck" and ended with " I'm trapped in this torrid mental affair". The poem was named DC. When I confronted her with what I found her first reaction was to laugh it off. Oh nothing happened between us it was all just in my mind. After she saw that it meant a little more to me that that she began to cry and say she was sorry. I would like to also say that she has been on a few different medications for Anxiety the last few years. After a few days of pain and anger i was starting to feel that I could start to forgive her for the sake of out two small children. This went on for a few weeks and things were getting better until I went out of town for 2 weeks for work. When I returned I found almost 20 Internet searches of a guy with the initials of DC. He is a artist and writer in our city so there was alot of hits on his name. She looked at them all, pictures, blogs and his twitter page. I confronted her again with what i found. Her response was " we worked together on a few projects and i was just looking to see what he was up to. This was 4 days before christmas so again i decided to forgive her and work on trying to save out marriage. It was good for a few weeks but there have been a few fights about how I'm overcritical of her and untrusting of her. We currently are not talking to each other. I know I'm not a easy person to get along with. I do not like to yell, or fight so I just walk away for her when I can. She however is not like that. She likes to yell at the drop of a hat. I dint really know why I'm doing this other than I have nowhere else to go. My best friend is married to her best friend so I don't feel like I can talk to him because he will talk to his wife about it. I need some help