Mahler, I like what you said. You're right on!

Speaking from experience, but NOT in the bi or gay world, when we're very young as in 11 - 20, we haven't experienced much to know what feelings are what. If you have or are growing up in a home where feelings aren't expressed, then you really don't know what any give feeling is that you may be feeling. If you've been abused, feelings get mixed up. It goes on and on.

At 50 was when I learned what real love is and NOT through loving someone. Is was through getting to know ME better. At 62, I know a little bit more about what real love is.

If our childhood experiences were found lacking, we may feeel attracked to someone, or a type of person, but that doesn't mean that it's a sexual attraction! It doesn't even mean it could be love. There are people that have one shining quality that we are attracted to. If we're inexperienced enough, we think we're in love. Likelihood is that we're not.

As for sexual orientation, one experience doesn't make you anything. It was just one experience! The teen years are for learning who you are, trying out new things. It's well into your 20's and maybe even early 30's that you begin to know who you really are, what you like and don't like IF you have a "normal" childhood, never mind those of us with mental health issues and abuse!

"FEELINGS AREN'T FACTS! FEELINGS ARE NEITHER RIGHT OR WRONG, THEY JUST ARE."