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Originally Posted by Ygrec23
I have very vivd recollections of different things that happened when I was tiny. Some good, some bad. When we eat dinner now, it calls up to me all kinds of food memories of early childhood and I share those with my wife. She thinks this is bad. She tells me I have to work with T not to remember such stuff.
To me, that sounds crazy. What's wrong with childhood memories? Particularly about things you ate as a child? French fries? Ice cream? Baked potatoes? Lamb chops? Macaroni and cheese? Meringue cookies? (I could continue for a long time.) Is there anything pathological about this kind of thing? Myself, I can't see it at all. It's just food. I do not understand how it could be negative. Anyone have any other ideas? Take care!  |
I believe whether remembering childhood issues/memories or not it an individual decision. ie some mental health providers say its a good thing and others say its a bad thing and others toe the line with its a good and bad thing depending on how the childhood issues and memories affects each person.
in my own experience I could not remember my childhood and childhood issues due to my mental disorder DID. So of course I set out to recover those repressed and unremembered memories and issues. it was the only way in which I could recover from having a dissociative disorder.
Whereas some others that I know that have had a traumatic childhood but did not use dissociation in childhood are now attempting to shut out their childhood and childhood issues during their adult years, some so much so that they are /have attempted to bring upon their self dissociative disorders during their adult years as a way to shut out their childhood. then of course getting frustrated and upset when they dont have the same successful outcome as those who used dissociation during the actual childhood events. they feel that forgetting forever is the key to their childhood memories and issues no longer affecting their adult lives.
then there are those who their childhood memories and childhood issues dont affect their lives. they have some memories and issues and not remember others and they go on with their lives with - that was the past this is the present and future, what was done was done and is done now its time to go on with my life. and they are able to do so.
Basically in my opinion - you have to make up your own decision of whether you remembering your childhood memories and issues are affecting your life and also you are the only one that can decide whether taking a stroll down memory lane when the memories and issues surface, is good for you. its also up to you to decide whether to do something about it, if you feel taking strolls down memory lane impacts you in a negative way.
