Ha, what an interesting thread. I so understand all of you. I'm married (18 yrs now - to a wonderfull, helpfull, understanding, supportive, bestfriend). Little off track there, but I feel all of my friends are only my friend because of my husband. They will call my husband regularly. They usual ask him "how is the wife" but never ask to talk to me. I get angry because if they were truely my friend why wouldnt they just call me. We will go out as couples every now and then but not often. I tried to call a few and keep contact, but they always sound distant talking to me. I've inquired with one, I thought was one of our closest friend, and she said "I just don't want to bother you on your bad days, and I just dont know what to say or do" At least she was honest, but I feel like I have a large scarlet letter on me.