Hi I am not exactly sure what you mean but I am going to give this a try and see if I am understanding this ....for me I will not tolerate abuse of any kind verbal or physical , name calling and so on....I make it clear I will wait say 15 minutes for those who are habitially late and thats it...I will not put up with people who say that want my help or opinion they shoot me down *not because of the idea but because they had their minds made up before* they asked..I guess I just don't deal with abuse anymore....Can you expound?