In trying to figure out what to say in the way of closure with my Mothers death this last January 9, I realize that I am still trying to deal with everything that happened during that time & haven't even arrived at the point of grief or closure.

I feel like I did, the day I went to the grief group that was held by the hospice group that cared for her the last 5 days of her life. Everyone had such nice things to say about their family member that had died & all I could think of were all the things I had "learned not to do" from all that I had lived through because of her.

I look back & see that my Mother didn't have the same nice church funeral that my Father had, just a simple graveside service. There is some guilty feelings, but my fear for my own safety far outweighed the possible guilt.

I am so glad that most people don't have the same feelings that I am experiencing.
Debbie