If there are things going on in your relationship that hurt you and make you unhappy, they need to change or you need to get out. It's easy advice to give, but hard to act on. It's very easy to get complacent & comfortable in a relationship, especially if you've known someone a looonnnggg time.

I don't know if I tolerate my husband or if I'm just too lazy to get up off the couch & do anything about it. I know I would be a better person without my husband around to encourage my cynicism and we're both very lazy about changing ourselves for the better. But his parents are loaded... and he's never raised a hand against me or spoken unkindly towards me, and I give him the same respect - except when I call him a dork, but I try to say it with love. I know a lot of people that are far worse off than us.