It's a conflicting level of needs, I think. I'm the one who usually stays home and therefore has to look at the house. So I'm trying to create something beautiful to look at. Whereas to hubby, merely functional and structurally sound is sufficient. Because he is satisfied with the way things are, he is not quick to move when I ask. And that is what makes me feel disrespected--I'm NOT satisfied with the way things are, but what I feel doesn't matter to him enough to get him moving.