((((Zoo))))

It is NOT just about you or just about T. It is a relationship between two living beings. Two people who can misunderstand others. Two people who make mistakes.

Your T has a very big role in this... and so do you.

But the bottom line is that you do have the power to work through this.
You have done the workout.
Your T just stepped in it - big time.

If you are able to regain a bit of strength and are safe enough, call T back and say, T - WTF ???? Remember that she is working for you - working to help you heal. Part of the DBT is to be available on the phone. She knows this. That means she is going beyond what she would do as a CBT or other therapist. If she can't handle being a DBT, she needs to change her style of therapy.

My T and I have talked some about your T (because he is working on DBT training) - and he has said what I just told you. He said that being a DBT is one of the hardest things to do. But that it can be the most rewarding. It is a very deep relationship and has specific ways of dealing with things. It depends on a T who is able to model the right way to behave inside a safe relationship.

You deserve your wellness. You deserve to not sit in turmoil over her blunder tonight.