To answer a few other questions on here:

Sara - of course I'm being emotionally blackmailed. Thanks for checking in with me, though. The dilemma is what to do about it. With my T's help, I feel like I came a long way with regard to setting some boundaries (like not flying on holidays), but what that seems to have translated in this thread to is that I don't respect my family.

Tomi - the reason I am not flying on holidays anymore is because I am absolutely terrified to fly. I know, I know... it seems weird since I travel almost nonstop, but what you might not know is that I pop Tylenol PM like it's candy (previously Ativan) just to get myself on the plane. That's during a non-holiday flight. There are several other reasons, but it's too much to get into right now.