Steve,

It would be helpful to have more information as LMo pointed out, but I have a comment I can make in general. I tell my husband, who can be controlling at times, that the best way to control me is to love me. Food for thought.

Did you wife have a controlling parent(s)? This will really make her sensitive to your trying to control her.

Have the two of you tried to go to counseling?

We're here for you.

Hope things turn around.

Jane