Thank you Amy we saw and appreciated both.

As I have some problems with hugs I'd like to say what it is that makes me unhappy. I counted up hugs given and there are some people who have loads. That in itself is not a problem. But there are some people who have none. To see people posting hugs to a small group of people makes me feel like I am outside, missing out on something.
I don't want to stop people getting hugs. I don't want to stop people giving hugs. But I want everyone to get them. I have joined in loads of hugs (prior to recent times when things have been too hard for me to post much). But I feel sad that I have not been offered hugs (except here when I asked for them) even though I see the same names recurring frequently. I know others have close relationships and that is fine. I suppose I am just being selfish and needy again. I don't feel I belong. The Kudos forum makes me feel worse about myself because it shows me that I don't matter enough to be offered hugs there.

I don't want hugs to stop.
I just want the kudos forum to stop being dominated by the same names. It's not a criticism of the people receiving the hugs. I just feel so isolated, and lately I am feeling even more isolated here.

Hugs for those who have been upset by this. I never wanted that. I just wanted not to feel invisible, and for other people to have that recognition too, because I know how much it has boosted me when I have been given spontaneous hugs.

Caroline