where do i begin really.
ive always been very mistrusting. not just in this relationship, i remember my first girlfriend when i was 14 i was the same.
ive made my wifes life a misery since we married 5 years ago with my constant remarks and accusations about her looking at other guys etc, sure you've heard it all before. we argue just about everytime we go out and i rarely let her go out alone without causing a major to do.
its gotten to the point where theres no passion left from her which i know is my fault, though she says she loves me and isnt ready to throw in the towel. i know my behaviour is pushing her towards the one thing im afraid of.
shes always told me i was a control freak, well 2 days ago i went online and searched a few sites and got some pretty good break downs of the definition. ive always told her the fact that i feel that i trust her yet everything i say and do tells her the opposite. i know now its my fears that are causing the control and all the other emotions im showing.
right now im feeling probably the lowest ive ever felt and want to get out of this place im in. ive found nothing in any of the sites ive seen that suggest a control freak cant change, yet nothing to tell me how.
i feel ive made a positive step in labelling my problem. i just now dont know if ive left it too late or if the damage is irreversable in our marriage.

oh and in answer to the other question, she was bought up by her grandparents and she says i act exactly how her nan used to act. so yes i guess this just accentuates everything from her perspective.