Dear God in Heaven! What is going on here?

We all have different situations with our families and I agree with LMo that "getting it" can mean spending time with family because that is who they are. I, for one, spent time around a mother that made me a wreck but my children loved her and she loved them and I made compromises for it. I, too, spent $$$$ dealing with it. I dealt.

What is supportive about lecturing and writing people off because they don't agree with you? I don't advocate being anyone's doormat, but perhaps from someone's else's perspective..they might think they are my windshield. And I would try to get to the bottom of it and find out what really was wrong..........