Maybe she feels like she always has to 'boss' you around, because you want to clean and do house work, when it's convenient for you and not for her. She expects you to do your work as her daughter, and she wants it on her time schedule not yours. maybe try doing something nice for her, like having the house work done before she returns home from work, maybe she'd appreciate it, and feel less stressed coming home to a nice clean house, that way you two could talk or spend time together when she has a lot less on her plate.