steve, i had the oppositve in my marriage. he controlled me by being so nice that i couldn't have a thought that didn't come from his perspective. weird? indeed.

and labeling yourself a "control freak" before you really delve into this could be putting the cart before the horse. get a T and work on it together. sounds like she loves you and wants things to work out.please do couples therapy. i think it would really help you and your wife. xoxox pat