Hello, Thine. My childhood has some similarities with yours. I offer these for your perusal:

http://www.resiliencycenter.com/arti...syndrome.shtml
http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/g...-mental-health
http://www.wikihow.com/Love-Yourself
http://www.livestrong.com/article/14...lf-acceptance/

Questioning my parents about anything was viewed as talking back. If I did "talk back," I was told I was bad. I rarely was given the opportunity to make decisions. When I went off to college I had a terrible time. In fact, I was diagnosed with an adjustment disorder: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/adj...4/METHOD=print

We all are a work in process, Thine. We always will be. We can find peace by accepting who we are now. Upon self-acceptance, the challenge remains to change what we may for the better.

You are a good person, Thine.