I am so sorry that i did not reply to you all, i have been on a real downer the past couple of weeks, i just could not cope with fighting anymore so i stopped the world and got off (well switched off the phone, internet and door bell and hibernated in my own self pity trying to sort out this mess!!!) but i am recharged and fighting stronger than ever with a formal complaint against social services!
thankyou all for your kind words of support xx take care xx