I totally disagree with Perna. What your wife did, and based upon your posts is having an emotional affair. This is just as damaging as a full blown physical affair, maybe worse. My wife had an emotional affair with a man for 6 months? maybe longer. It was the most hurtful thing I have experienced in my life, next to my dad committing suicide.

We separated for a year and are trying to recover our marriage, but its rough. I honestly dont know if I can stay with her. Ask your wife about this, seek counseling, but dont minimize it. I wish you well.