Thank you for your post, and thank you so much for you support. I totally understand about ex-hub and kids involved. Its natural in this case to have necessity to keep in touch. I do understand it about his kids and his ex wife though she hates me. But it hurts me so bad knowing he wouldnt try to undertand my feelings about him communicating to his ex gf... its hurting the hell out of me. with my bpd it makes things twice more hurtful. I dont know how to deal with this jealousy :'(