((((((((((((Indie)))))))))))))

You don't sound pathetic at all. I get worried sometimes when my T seems to "disappear" for a weekend. I do think that for me, that's the "transference" part of the relationship...because it feels very real and very young and very scary. The adult part of me "knows" that he's out of town, or busy, or has a family situation he's dealing with, or has the flu, or any number of other things. The young part of me just knows that "he's GONE".

I think sending an e-mail would be fine. Just a "I missed seeing you on the 22nd and I'm having a hard time contacting you now and it's worrying me". It's okay to feel worried.

I hope you hear from her soon.